-One of the biggest struggles I have in my life, and ministry, is with delegation. It depends on the specific issue, but I generally just like to do things myself instead of asking others to do it, which has often not worked well for me. Yes, things get done in the way that I want them done, but I cheat others out of using their gifts, and I wear myself down.
-And part of what has kept me going is that I’m in good company! In Ex. 18, there’s a story about Moses (who lead Israel out of Egypt and through their wilderness wanderings). Moses gets word that his father-in-law was coming to visit, and during the course of his visit he sees Moses’s work, where Moses would deal with any complaints people had. His father-in-law chews him out, and tells Moses that if he keeps trying to do it all he’ll wear himself out, that he needs to set up delegation who can deal with these little petty issues that people have.
-That picture is what we see in today’s text. Delegating various roles to people who are gifted so that all of us can use our gifts for the good of each other and the honor of God.
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- Deacons, Servants, Ministers
-Right out of the gate, we need to deal with what is the word for this role? Last week it looked like the NT writers were the confused ones, this week it looks like we English speakers who are the confused ones! Because the word is translated 3 different ways in English! And by the title of this point, you can see all 3 of them!
-It’s important to note that Paul is beginning a new train of thought here that is a subset of what he said last week. Last week was the qualifications for an elder/overseer. That thinking continues with this text as he says “likewise” to signify it’s a continuation of his previous thoughts. Remember what I said last week: a church that believes the 4 Gospels will organize itself like is described in the Epistles (letters), by calling elders and deacons as the leaders of the church.
-But just as there’s some confusion about what to call last week’s role, there’s some slight nuance to what we call this week’s role, and to demonstrate that, here’s a few verses that point that out. First, let’s go back to a passage I read last week to talk about leadership in the kingdom of God, Mark 10.
-Usually most translations have “serve” here, but it’s the same word that Paul uses to talk about this office in 1 Tim. And then, just so we get it, Jesus says it again in the upper room during His last night with His disciples. So right out of the gate we see that this isn’t something demeaning or belittling, this is something that Jesus Himself does!
-It’s also a word Paul uses to describe himself. In Col. 1 he’s talking about the church, and then describes himself as the church’s deacon (servant). And later in this letter to Timothy, Paul tells him that Timothy will also be a good deacon of Jesus.
-So if we see all these examples of so many people being deacons, why do I think this is a separate office similar to Elder? Because of the logic of this passage, 2 other passages from Paul, and church history. Let’s work through each one of those.
-The logic of this passage. The purpose of this book is so Timothy can know how the church (household) is supposed to operate, with leaders called by God and affirmed by the rest of the congregation. The leaders begin with elders or overseers who “oversee” the church. But in order to receive help, they also need deacons (which we’ll see throughout this passage) to help manage the church. That’s why Paul connects this to the office of elders.
-The 2 other passages: the first (less convincing, but still necessary) is Rom. 16:1, where Paul (I believe) describes Phoebe who is a deacon of the church (hold on to that, it’ll become important later). The second passage is what clinches it for me, Paul writes a letter, but notice who it’s written TO: all the saints, including the overseers and deacons. 2 offices expected in the church.
-The final reason is church history. The early church quickly adopted and recognized these 2 offices in the church. In a document referred to as the Didache (teaching), they stated: And Pliny the Younger, a Roman lawyer toward the end of the 1st/beginning of the 2nd century said:
-So what I believe we start to see through the Bible is 2 offices, 1 focused on the Word, the other focused on the works. Elders are to ensure the church remains committed to God’s Word, they teach and correct using the Word, while deacons focus on the physical needs to allow the church to be able to hear and receive the Word. So I would argue that many things people think the elders should do are better done by deacons! But we’ll get there at the end.
-While we’re all called to “deacon” each other, there’s a unique role reserved for qualified people that is recognized by the church. And just as Paul had a list of what should be true of elders last week, this week he has another list that sounds very similar to what we read last week. And this shouldn’t be a surprise to you if you’ve been coming the last few weeks, but there’s once again debate about the best way to interpret this passage!
- A Faithful Deacon Is…
-Paul begins saying they should be “worthy of respect.” This word includes things like dignified, or worth following after. Similar to what we saw last week with elders, just as we need to be careful in our selection of elders, we also need to be careful in our selection of deacons, because we become like our leaders! And it only takes 1 bad leader to corrupt the rest of the group!
-Not hypocritical. While there’s many overlaps between this list and the elder list, this one is unique to deacons, and I think there’s a reason for that! Because of the focus on the “works” that need to be done, deacons are going to be aware of some sensitive information that’s going on in people’s lives. We don’t want someone who either doesn’t follow through on commitments or someone that’s going to be sharing that information with other people.
-For example, one of the areas that I think should fall under the oversight of deacons is benevolence requests, money set aside to help church members in need. This means there’s going to be some people who know a bit about someone’s financial situation. You don’t want that person to be a blabbermouth, or to tell you they’re going to be helping you and not follow through! That’s why it’s so important for them to not by a hypocrite!
-Then we’re back to the same thing as elders: not drinking a lot of wine. As I said last week, this is someone who is self-controlled.
-Not greedy for money. The word Paul uses is literally “shamefully greedy.” Someone who just wants more and more. I would connect this to the hypocritical piece: if this is someone who’s involved in the “works” of the church, some of them will have access to some level of finances, and if they’re greedy for that money they’ll look with suspicion on anyone else.
-This next one is where I believe we see the biggest difference between elders and deacons. Whereas elders are expected to teach, deacons are expected to hold onto the faith.
-Mystery isn’t like Sherlock Holmes, it’s a technical term that Paul uses to refer to the realities of the gospel message, something that had been hidden in the past that was revealed in Jesus.
-Clear conscience. Jonathan Edwards (American Pastor before the Revolutionary War) said the conscience is like a sundial, it only works when it’s viewed in light of the sun, other lights give false readings. Requires the community of faith living together to help you see yourself in light of the true Son of God! Our hearts will continually pull us away from that source of truth. That’s why we need Sundays and other people to pull us back and remind us who God really is! And deacons are supposed to be people who do that exceptionally well, who work to continually align their hearts with God.
-Last for this slide, they must be tested. This is similar to what we saw for elders that they must not be a new convert. This means they should have a life that models faithfulness. We’re not looking for someone who’s the best facilities person, the best finance person, the best business person, we’re looking for someone who is faithful in their walk with the Lord. Let’s not miss that Paul emphasizes this for both elders and deacons! Friends, churches aren’t just another nonprofit or institution! The requirements are different in the household of God.
-Are you ready for the biggest debate of this section? It’s the first word in vs. 11: wives or women? Dan Doriani (professor at Covenant Seminary in St. Louis) summarizes all the proposals under 4 options, with the most ink being focused on options 1 or 4.
-First option is that Paul is talking about male deacons, then focuses on women, back to men, then all deacons. There’s no distinction between men and women.
-Second option is a different office that Paul is referring to, some people make a distinction between deacons and deaconesses as 2 unique roles the church is meant to fill.
-Third option would be women who help out the deacons, a lower role .That would mean they’re not the same as deacons, they come alongside to help the deacons.
-Fourth would be just translate this word as “wives” and call it a day!
-I would argue that it’s option 1, for a number of reasons. First, what I mentioned earlier about Paul calling out Phoebe in Rom. 16 as a deacon, and church history also backs up the idea that deaconesses were a part of the early church. The second reason is I don’t think it makes sense for deacons to have stricter requirements than elders, if Paul was referring to their wives here then I believe he also would have had something about elder’s wives in previous text.
-Additionally, I think Paul’s logic in the text is pretty easy to follow if you pay attention to a repeated word. This whole chapter is focused on leadership in the church, beginning with elders, which were supposed to be selected at every church. Then he continues his thoughts on church leadership with a word “likewise” when he starts talking about the second church office of deacons. And did you notice that he uses it again in this verse? So his flow of thought begins with elders, moves to deacons, then he has some specific expectations for women who are deacons before going back to male deacons, and finally ends with encouragement for everyone who serves as a deacon. Which gets me to the last reason I think it’s women and not wives, in vs. 12 Paul talks about their wives!
-All that to say, I believe Paul in this chapter is giving us principles for how to structure leadership in the church of Jesus Christ. Every church is expected to have elders, and then as the church grows a second office is introduced to help the church continue to pursue unity together: deacons. Deacons are comprised of men and women who meet these qualifications. And friends, some of where I think we’ve gotten off in the church is by not holding to these 2 offices as something God has called us to hold to. I think the whole women in ministry conversation becomes much more difficult when you don’t recognize that God has called women to leadership in the role of deacon. It is different than elder, but it is still an official leadership office.
-Now for the qualifications for these women deacons: I think it’s basically what we’ve seen of the expectations for the male deacons, it begins with literally the same word: respectful. Not slanderers connects to not being a hypocrite, self-controlled connects to not drinking too much, and faithful in everything connects to holding to the faith.
-Then Paul shifts back to the male deacons who (like the elders) are to be faithful at home as husbands and fathers because the church is just a slightly bigger family.
-Finally, everyone who serves as a deacon acquires a good standing and are encouraged in their faith as they serve the church and point others to Jesus.
- What’s the Difference?
-One commentary stated the difference as: elders serve by leading, deacons lead by serving. I think that’s a helpful summary! And part of the reason we need to talk about this is because there’s not a lot of clarity in the Bible about what each of these offices are supposed to be doing. AND there’s nothing in the Bible about what it means to be a nonprofit in the 21st century (nor is there a class in Seminary about that!)
-Language used: elders oversee, deacons assist. There’s recently been some linguistic work done on the Greek word translated as deacon, with the argument that it should be understood assistants to the elders. So the elders are tasked with leading the church (a Word based leading), and then they call and recognize deacons who help the elders focus on their ministry by partnering together for the good of the entire body. If you have questions about that, email me, I’ll send you some articles.
-Before we start to define what they should be doing, I want to briefly share some things that a Deacon is NOT.
-Elders in training: these are meant to be 2 distinct offices that complement each other and minister in different but overlapping spheres of influence. This isn’t meant to be a steppingstone on the way to something bigger and better. Just like the youth pastor doesn’t just have to be a starting point for those in ministry (we had former Pastor Bruce there for 40 years, so we should know that!) Some people who are called to serve as deacons shouldn’t aspire to become elders!
-GCs: I believe facilities can be a part of the ministry of the deacons, but it’s not only that. So just because someone is good at fixing things doesn’t mean they should be a deacon, especially if they don’t fit the characteristics of a deacon that Paul gives us here.
-CPAs: once again, I think finances is an area that should be under the oversight of deacons, but that’s not all the deacons are supposed to do.
-CEOs: there are some business things that we need to do to function in the 21st century, like nonprofit laws, employee practices, etc. But just because someone is good at managing a secular business does not automatically mean they should be a deacon!
-And I added this last one because I’ve heard of too many people who say the elders are just “yes men!” Sometimes I wish that were the case! Deacons aren’t supposed to be a “check on power” of the elders, like the various branches of government.
-So what is a deacon supposed to do? I think we see a glimpse of it in Acts 6. Now, this is contested because this passage doesn’t actually use the term “deacon,” but I believe it gives us the starting point of what eventually becomes deacons in the early church.
-It begins with a contested issue that’s threatening to divide the church. Things were not equal in the ways widows were being cared for. So the 12 (apostles) called a members meeting (see friends, even the early church had disagreements that required discussion at members meetings!). We see what the 12 are focusing their ministry on: prayer and the ministry of the Word. Don’t read the waiting on tables as a lesser than thing. That’s how we read these things, but that’s not how we’re supposed to. It’s not better or worse, it’s distinct. Plus, in God’s kingdom, the lowest is the person who’s going to get the most recognition in heaven!
-Now, keep in mind the complaint that led to this: Hellenistic Jews (Greek speaking) were upset about the Hebraic Jews neglecting them. So then we get to the next verse, and all 7 names are Hellenistic names, meaning the Hebraic Jews were working hard to preserve the unity in the church, laying down their preferences for the good of the rest of the body. So part of the role of deacons is to help preserve unity in the church.
-So the way I would summarize the distinction: elders are to focus on the ministry of the Word and prayer, the deacons are to serve in a wide assortment of ministries to help the church preserve unity.
-Most churches function this way, they just don’t use these terms, and we actually have people who have been operating like deacons, we just don’t call them that! People like: Erin, Tami, and Molly on staff, Glenn Sonnee and Roger Thelen.
-While some people called by God and recognized by the church to serve in this office, let’s remember that all of us are called to “deacon” each other each time we get together. In fact, every time we gather as the church, we should be looking for opportunities to “deacon” each other, just like Jesus “deaconed” us.

